You are not afraid. You experience fear.You are not sad. You experience sadness.You are not angry. You experience anger.You are not traumatised. You experience trauma.You are not ashamed. You experience shame. This is not said to minimise what you are going through. The fear is real. The sadness is real. The anger and trauma and […]
Don’t worry. Don’t fret when life and circumstances beyond your control, divert you off course. Don’t lose sleep when compelled to take a U-turn. Trust in a benevolent and coherent Universe that holds the blueprint and works together for your ultimate good. Be flexible. Bend when you have to.When the pressure eases, resume your course. […]
18 February 2021“The story you wrote to survive wasn’t true— but it still saved you.” You survived with a story. Maybe it said you were fine. Maybe it said you were in control. Maybe it said you deserved the silence, the distance, the pressure, the pain. It wasn’t true. But it worked. It held you upright. It […]
22 August 2025Time is an illusion. That is not to say it is ‘not real’. Time is an illusion because it is not what it appears to be. Time is how we perceive reality i.e. in sequential linear events. Yet what the mind perceives and translates into your experience as sequential and linear, stretching from the past […]
2 April 2023This is not spiritual bypassing or a call to pretend otherwise.
— from “You Are Not Afraid. You Experience Fear.”From birth, we are enrolled in the University of Life. There is a hidden curriculum at work in every life. Most of us sense it at some point — that quiet awareness that the events unfolding around us are not random, that something is being taught even when no lesson was announced. When we begin […]
Narratives, once they take root, become strongholds. It matters little whether the foundation of a story is truth or falsehood. Once embedded, we begin aligning our perceptions and experiences with it, and it colours our entire reality. If I tell myself you are my enemy, nothing you say or do will register as genuine. Conversely, […]
Meekness is almost universally misread as weakness. It is not. Meekness is power that has chosen restraint. It is inner strength guided by deeper wisdom rather than by impulse, ego, or the need to assert itself. The meek person is not the one who has nothing to offer — they are the one who has […]
I cringe when people call me religious. To be honest, I find the word mildly offensive. Not because of ill intent on anyone’s part — the reaction may say as much about my own sensitivities as about the label itself. Disclaimer noted. But let me be clear nonetheless. When someone calls me religious, here is […]
Living too much in my head wasn’t serving me. At best, it was like living in a house of cards — seemingly stable, until one unexpected shift and the whole structure collapses. The mind spins compelling narratives about reality, and we buy into them, until they turn out to be unreliable or flat-out false. At […]
When asked “Who are you?” we reach for the nearest available label. A role. A nationality. An occupation. A belief system. A sexuality. A diagnosis. We describe our family positions, our personality types, our tribal affiliations. Anything that locates us within a recognisable framework. But what if these labels are merely a construct — a […]
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